Reclaim Your Energy

You’ve been surviving. Now it’s time to gather the pieces of yourself and start living again.

Phase One

The Unraveling

Before you can reclaim your energy, you must first unravel the knots—of guilt, of exhaustion, of everything that taught you to stay small.

Burned Out & Buried

Have you been holding it all together for everyone else?
Have you buried your own needs so deep you almost forgot what they even were?

You’ve been moving through survival mode—quiet, constant, heavy—feeling like something sacred has slipped through your fingers, but you can’t quite name what.

You’re not broken. You’re burned out.
And even ashes can hold seeds.

This part of the journey isn’t about fixing anything.
It’s about remembering you still exist under all of it.

LINKS - BLOG POST - Recognizing Signs of BURNOUT

Tired of nothing working out?

You’ve been doing all the things—checking the boxes, saying the affirmations, trying to stay positive—and still, everything keeps falling apart.
You’re not cursed. You’re not failing. You’re just in survival mode.

And survival mode wasn’t made for thriving.
It’s not built for magic or momentum or joy.
It’s built to keep you alive—barely. There’s no space for adventure, creation, or deep change when your system is focused on getting through the next hour.

You’re exhausted because surviving is heavy.
You’re stuck because your energy is being rerouted to just... endure.

But you made it here. And that’s the first crack of light.

LINK TO BLOG POSTS:

  • “You’re Not Stuck. You’re in Survival Mode. Here’s How to Shift Out.”

Light the Lantern

You don’t need to transform today. You just need to remember you still have power.

You don’t need to leap.
You don’t need to climb.
You don’t need a five-year plan.

You just need to strike the match.

When you’ve been in the dark for too long, even the smallest spark can feel like fire in your bones. That flicker? That first breath of maybe? That’s not nothing. That’s everything.

This is where we light the lantern.

Not to chase away the dark, but to remember that you’re still here. That you still have power. That you still carry fire.

These are the first sparks of return.
Tiny actions. Gentle truth.
Nothing forced—just small flames to hold onto while you find your way back to yourself.

How to Get Out of Your Head (When It Feels Like a Trap)

Sometimes your mind isn’t a safe place—it’s a maze.
Thoughts looping, spiraling, catastrophizing.
You try to think your way out, but the thinking is the trap.

Here’s the truth: you can’t always logic your way to peace.
But you can interrupt the spiral.

Try this:

  • Splash cold water on your wrists or face

  • Put both feet flat on the floor and press down

  • Look around and name 5 things you see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you hear...

Don’t overthink it—just anchor.

The spiral loses power when you come back to your body.

*[Read the full blog → “Spiraling: How to Interrupt the Loop Before It Swallows You”]

Grounding: What It Really Means (and How to Do It When You Feel Nothing)

Grounding isn’t about being calm.
It’s not about pretending everything’s okay.

It’s about coming back into your body when everything in you wants to float away.

When you’re numb, overwhelmed, or lost in your head—grounding pulls you back to what’s real.

Try one of these:

  • Place your bare feet on the earth, even for 60 seconds

  • Hold something heavy in your hands (a rock, a book, your pet)

  • Press your palm against your chest and breathe

  • Sit with your back against a wall and feel the support

You don’t have to feel anything profound.
You just have to land.

*[Read the full blog → “Grounding Techniques for the Spiritually Fried”]

Problem Solving for the Spiritually Fried

When you’re burned out, even the smallest decision can feel like too much.
Your brain spins. Your body stalls. Everything feels like either “fix it all” or “shut it down.”

But problem solving doesn’t mean solving everything.
It means picking one rock to move off your chest.

Try this:

  • Choose one thing that’s bothering you—just one

  • Ask: What’s the next smallest action I can take here?

  • Take that step. Rest. Repeat.

This isn’t about fixing your whole life.
It’s about reclaiming your capacity, one choice at a time.

*[Read the full blog → “Skill Development: Problem Solving When You’re Burned Out”]

Coping Isn’t Weak—It’s a Damn Superpower

You’ve been taught that coping is weakness.
That if you’re not thriving, you’re failing.
But here’s the truth:

Coping is survival magic.
It’s what kept you here when everything else was too heavy.

There’s a difference between numbing out and coping in.
Numbing avoids.
Coping anchors.

Build your toolbox—your way:

  • Music that shifts your mood

  • Cleaning as a ritual of control and clarity

  • Crying without apology

  • Burning old thoughts on paper

  • Making tea and naming it a spell

You don’t need to be better. You just need to keep breathing.

*[Read the full blog → “Skill Development: Coping Skills That Actually Work”]

Phase Two

Calling Your Energy Back

Where Is Your Energy Going?

Your energy doesn’t just disappear.
It gets drained, scattered, stolen.
Given to things and people that no longer deserve it.

If you feel exhausted all the time—this is why.

Start asking:

  • Who do I constantly overextend for?

  • What do I say “yes” to out of guilt or fear?

  • Where am I emotionally on edge, even when nothing’s “wrong”?

  • What obligations feel like slow poison?

Energy leaks are sneaky. They show up as:

  • Doom scrolling

  • Overthinking what others think of you

  • Feeling stuck but not knowing why

  • Emotional labor that goes unseen and unpaid

“Energy leaks are often disguised as responsibility.”

This is where you start to name what’s costing you your peace.

[Optional link: Journal prompts or an “Energy Inventory” worksheet—add later]

How to Call It Back

This isn’t a grand ritual or a dramatic reset. This is a quiet, holy reclamation.

You get to take back what’s yours.

Try this:

  • Close your eyes. Picture every place you’ve left pieces of yourself—old relationships, jobs, promises, past versions of you.

  • Now, see those threads returning. One by one. Back into your chest. Back into your body.

  • Say (aloud or silently): I call my energy back to me. What is mine returns. What is not mine is released.

Other ways to begin the return:

  • Say “no” without apology

  • Take something off your calendar and don’t replace it

  • Stop explaining yourself to people who don’t listen

  • Rest without guilt

  • Write down one way you betrayed yourself—and forgive it

“Calling your energy back isn’t selfish. It’s sacred.”

[Optional link: Ritual guide or downloadable PDF later]

Boundaries Are Not Walls—They’re Doors with Locks

You don’t need to burn bridges. You don’t need to explain yourself endlessly. You don’t need to prove that your “no” is valid. You just need to close the damn door.

A boundary isn’t a punishment—it’s protection.
It’s you choosing to be the gatekeeper of your own energy.

Start simple:

  • Say “I can’t today” without apologizing

  • Mute the group chat

  • Let the call go to voicemail

  • Take up space without permission

Your energy is not a public resource.
It’s sacred. And it deserves protection.

“No” is a full sentence. “Not today” is a boundary. Silence is protection.

[Optional: Link to a future Boundary Builder worksheet or affirmations deck]

Signs You’re Reclaiming Your Energy

Reclaiming your energy doesn’t always look big.
It often starts in the smallest, quietest ways.

You might not feel powerful yet—but you’re moving. You’re choosing. You’re remembering.

Here’s how it shows up:

  • You pause before saying yes

  • You stop explaining things that don’t need explaining

  • You rest before you’re completely depleted

  • You feel a little less guilty for doing nothing

  • You catch yourself before spiraling—and breathe instead

  • You say “no” and don’t flinch

  • You do something just because it brings you joy

This is what it looks like when your energy comes back home to you.